Author: Mulcahy, Lisa
Date published: February 1, 2011
So you're crushin' on that cutie in your chem class, and you're getting the vibe that he likes ya back. But you're just not sure how to take that next step. Ask him out? Wait for him to make a move? Flirt like crazy? The options seem endless. We know it can be tough to figure them out, but guys don't have to be such a mystery.
To get to the bottom of what boys really want and wish for, we rounded up some sweeties to share their thoughts on relationships. Read on - you'll be floored when ya find out how these fellas really feel!
THEY WANT A GF
Here's a shocker: All the guys we polled say they'd rather have an honest-togoodness relationship than date around. The main reason they want to commit? They really want to get to know you!
"When you're single and just dating random girls, you don't really get to connect with any of them," explains Michael, 16. "When you're dating someone for a long time, you start to get to know her better and understand her personality." John, 15, loves the sense of security that he gets from being with his GF: "I like being able to trust and share with someone." For Jonah, 17, it's all about feeling he's part of a team. "The fact that a relationship is exclusive is what I dig the most," he shares. "That allows you to grow together."
THEY'RE NOT ALL ABOUT LOOKS
So you don't have Taylor Swift's long blond locks or Rihanna's rockin' bod. So what? Generally, guys are way more interested in your personality.
"Humor and kindness are more important than looks," says Braxton, 15. Jonah totally agrees: "1 want my girlfriend to just be herself." Michael's crush criteria? A girl who is outgoing and funny. "The most attractive girls to me are energetic and lively," he says. "I know I like a girl when I'm laughing at her jokes and always have a good time talking to her." So stop stressin' about the superficial stuff and work that charm instead.
THEY LIKE NICE GIRLS
Sure, you're used to tossing your crush constant compliments and going outta your way with generous gestures. But as much as boys like to be flattered, they also like to see you being sweet to everyone else around. Michael fell for his girl after she randomly helped out a classmate between classes.
"A guy dropped his notebooks, and she immediately helped him pick up his papers. She didn't even know him That showed me how caring she really is." Jonah got all choked up watching his girlfriend take time to hang out with her little sis - a small move highlighting her thoughtfulness. And the nicest thing John's girlfriend ever said to him? "She told me, ? know you're going to be famous for your music one day' I really respect her opinion, so that compliment meant a lot."
THEIR DREAM DATE AIN'T WHAT YA THINK
Planning a night with your guy? It's just not worth the countless hours spent stressing and organizing - and draining your piggy bank in the process. Chances are, he'd take quiet time together instead of an over-the-top gesture. (Here's the big secret: All he really wants is to spend some quality time with you.)
"My best date consisted of renting a movie and making sandwiches," says Jonah. Michael also prefers an outing of chill couple time saying, "I like to walk around the park, or sit by a lake and talk for hours, without ever noticing the time." John says as long as he's with a girl he likes, it doesn't matter what they do. "The fact that she wants to be with me as much as I want to be with her is what makes a date special to me." Sounds like a plan.
THEY LOVE TO SPOIL YOU
As loudly as guys may gripe about buying you stuff, deep down, most of them are itchin to hand ya super-fab presents.
"Jewelry - enough said!" Jonah tells us. Adds Michael, "I like to buy a girl cards and candy to show her I care." But it's not just about dropping dough to impress you. In the end, guys just want to make you smile. "When I really like a girl, I'll start pampering her," says John. "It makes me happy to see her totally light up whenever I do something: nice."
THEY WANT YOU TO 'GET' THEM
The most important thing the guys look for in a girl? They just want us to understand them. Michael sums it up: "A girl once told me, ? want to marry a guy as kind as you are.' That made me feel great because I go out of my way to be nice to people. It showed she really got me." Bottom line? Take time to truly get to know your guy - whether it's asking him about his fam or showing interest in his fave activities. And never hesitate to tell your guy how amazing he is - there's no better way to get close, and stay that way!